So it appears I struck a nerve with my recent post about the pressure we put ourselves under the feedback and messages I received from so many people that feel the exact same way was amazing and I never expected it. So thank you so much and thank you for getting in touch it’s great to know that my posts have helped just one person but to reach so many it’s a great feeling.
I guess this post is kind of connected it’s something personally I have felt, only last week I found myself struggling with feeling a little down in the dumps. I had no reason to feel fed up It was the weekend I was healthy, I had food in the fridge, no one had upset me I but for some reason, I just had this little niggle that I felt bleurr and annoyingly I didn’t have anything to blame it on. I even slept in I never sleep in these days, 8 AM is the latest I can get to even on a Sunday but I found myself hiding from the world under my duvet not really wanting to move. Now I have a secret to share… It’s OK to feel this way!
Sometimes we just have bad days, we wake up and everything just feels a little grey it could be because you have had a long week, your tired, you feel under the weather or it could be something a little more serious. Or it could just be you are having one bad day with nothing external to blame because guess what it happens!
Not every day do we wake up and run through fields with white rabbits and rainbows. Whatever your reason for feeling blue every now and again it sneaks along and throws us out of sync, it even happens to the happiest of people we know. It’s times like this when you feel you just need a little extra TLC and attention, you might even want to just be on your own, this also IS OK! It’s important to take a time out and let your body and brain re-energise and recollect. It’s tired for a reason and it wants a little minute to get it’s shit together and guess what if you let it you could end up feeling ten times better.
Whenever I’m feeling a little glum and I don’t want to be interrogated by the pity party police I go off and have some time to myself. I used to feel guilty, for this ohhh I’ve got stuff to do, housework to finish but shockingly it will all wait! The dishwasher won’t go anywhere it doesn’t have its own little legs to run off to complain to the dishwasher police you haven’t emptied it that day. You haven’t finished a work task because well your brain is constantly coming up against roadblocks and you just can’t think! But if you leave it and walk away you and come back to it later I can guarantee you will find it a hell of a lot easier.
So once upon a time I made a decision when I’m feeling a little pants and having a bad day I set off on my own little grey cloud adventure to make myself feel better. Here’s what I get up to:
Something I used to hate, I was never very in touch with my feelings or very chatty about them especially if they were negative but I’ve learned that if I’m having a bad day not everyone else is and it’s not their fault. Why should they be subject to my bad mood! So I tell whoever I’m around at the time, my boyfriend my family, my friends I’m having a bit of a bad day today I’m not really on form and I’m going to go have a little me time.
I hit the Gym
No I don’t want to go and I certainly don’t feel like it but as we all know the gym helps kick start those endorphins and make you feel so much better. It’s hard at first you don’t have the energy but by the end, your walking out with a little-added spring in your step. When I have finished my workout I have a swim, sauna and a steam, I love a swim especially on the weekends the gym is lovely and quiet the water makes me super relaxed.
I do some reading
I make a cup of tea, I get in bed and light some candles then I read. What I read varies it depends on how my concentration is so I flit between books and magazines I don’t get a lot of time to sit and really read a book so it’s a great to have a few hours to sit and lose myself.
When I feel a little pants I love to grab my duvet and sit and indulge in truly terrible reality tv. It’s just such easy viewing and I love it! My current go to is Made In Chelsea I just love how posh they all are and I want Ollie Locke to be my friend. I feel like he would take away any bad days you are having.
After all of my lazing around, I lounge around a little bit more and head for a bubble bath, again more candles add a little music and just relax. I’ve been doing a lot of Yoga lately so I use this time for some breathing exercises I let my mind escape and chuck out any negative feelings I am having. I put on a face mask and give my hair a nice deep conditioning treatment after growing up in a hair salon (not literally I didn’t live in one) I learned how to give myself a truly relaxing head massage pushing out all the tension I may have built up in my head neck and shoulders.
Have an early night
After lounging about all day, I took myself up in bed usually with clean new sheets and fresh pj’s and I will find a series to watch on Netflix or a feel good film and I drift off into an early dose. Then I wake up in the morning all super refreshed!
My routine won’t match everyone but it’s important to take some time out for yourself. Don’t forget it’s ok to feel a little ropey from time to time.